Shift Coaching For Second Careers
July 20, 2012 § Leave a Comment
Hope you’re having fun summer! For many, the summer is a difficult one with the economic realities changing so many things about “summer vacation”. We’ve received many inquiries from people beginning new careers as well as those who are faced with the prospect of beginning a second career that they may or may not have planned on.
To focus on the specific needs of those who are STARTING SECOND CAREERS we’ve developed an exciting, short-term coaching module which we call SHIFT.
SHIFT COACHING FOR STARTING A SECOND CAREER will get you focused, ready, and armed with new strategies and ways of approaching your second/new career.
The SHIFT COACHING FOR SECOND CAREERS is designed as a 5 session coaching system which can be completed in one month, 2 weeks or 1 week.
For more information about the SHIFT COACHING FOR SECOND CAREERS please email atypicalcoaching at gmail dot com (please put 2nd Career as the subject) or call us at 646.355.8759.
Wishing you good luck with today and a wonderful tomorrow,
Rebecca Kiki (@coachkiki on Twitter
How to Fail Successfully – A 3 Part Series
July 18, 2012 § Leave a Comment
Every year, as people are thinking about September and the work/academic year to come, I get emails asking me to repost this series on success and failure. I’m always happy to do it as the topic is a particular favorite of mine and one of my goals when working with clients is to enable them to achieve success and to deal with the inevitable failures and disappointments that are part of life. Things happen. They just do. The question is how you deal with them and what those things do to you.
do While I do try and find the good in every situation, I’m not of the “think only positive thoughts and only wonderful things will happen” school of thought. Positive thinking has its place, but putting that kind of burden on yourself is often counterintuitive. Negative things happen, things you wish didn’t happen, happen. Now what?
Children of all ages have found this series helpful and it’s my great pleasure to post it again. Enjoy.
Helping Children Fail Successfully – A 3 Part Series
The question is what happens after a failure? What do you do next?Did anyone get anywhere without some kind of failure along the way? Not a chance. The people who have achieved the most have also failed.
I’ve worked with so many children and parents throughout the years and this one area seems to trouble both groups the most. Failing at something. Whether it’s not getting the lead, or any part, in the school play, not making the team, failing on a test or not doing well, making a public mistake at the recital, failing emotionally, failing socially, failing interpersonally…the list goes on and on. What to do? Parents are agitated and upset, the children are despondent and often anxious about their parent’s reaction to the failure/upset.
The pressure to achieve everything, at all costs, publicly and every single time has been seeping into our collective national personality for a while. It’s causing unreasonable expectations for parents and children.
I’ve decided to spend the next few posts talking about ways in which parents and adults who work with children can manage their expectations for themselves and their children, learn how to accept failure and disappointment in themselves and their children, and learn how to use failure as a positive learning opportunity.
When working with clients to achieve the above an amazing thing happens. They and their children try more new things! The fears are manageable, a failure doesn’t become a catastrophic event and can be seen in context. Parents and children learn about managing frustration and disappointment. They also learn about expanding their options, being realistic about abilities and new ways to try achieving the same aims.
In short they learn my clients learn that ”if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again – oh – and try, try differently – oh – and try, try something new – oh – and try, try to measure yourself against only you”.
I look forward to writing more about it – it’s a topic I work with people on, lecture and teach but maybe I can learn some new things by approaching it in this new way.
Enjoy the day your way,
Rebecca (Kiki)
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For information on coaching, workshops, seminars, classes or materials for your group, school or institution please call 646.355.8759 or email me at atypicalcoaching at gmail dot com
Helping Children Fail Successfully – Part 2 of a 3 part series
July 18, 2012 § Leave a Comment
Helping Children Fail Successfully – Part 2 of a 3 part series
Quick Start Coaching Tip: This weekend it’s all about you.
Who likes thinking about their failures? Well, it won’t be forever (a great lesson to be learned from a failure!) and it’s an important step in understanding how your methods of dealing in both positive and negative ways might impact the way you approach it with your children.
1. Can you remember a situation where you really wanted to succeed at something but didn’t? (think back to last week or as far back as grade school)
Was it a job? A competition? A marathon? A game? A promotion? A personal goal you set but weren’t able to achieve? A part in the school play? A date for prom? A grade you wanted on an exam? A course you wanted to take? That cute guy/girl you were just dying to go out with? The account you wanted to land?(I just came up with about a dozen myself!)
2. Write down the words that come to mind that describe how you felt.
Angry, sad, furious, enraged, depressed, dejected, ashamed, annoyed, blase, hysterical, whichever words work for you.
3. What did you do next?
Did you brood? Did you give up on the whole thing altogether? Did you try and figure out what you might have done differently? Did you blame yourself completely for the failure? Did you ask other people for support? Did you shut yourself away alone until you got over it? Did you abandon all hope for ever achieving the goal? Did you recharge and attempt it again? Did you try to achieve it a different way?
The list of ways one reacts is vast. Everyone has their own way of dealing with failure what we’re trying to do here is identify your particular way of reacting so that you can think about how that impacts the way you react to the failure/s of the children in your life.
4. Would you react differently to it today? How?
Experience is a great teacher (I love her but I really wish she was always kind to me instead of teaching me some lessons the hard way!). Time often provides us with a new perspective on an old situation.
5. What did you learn about yourself and what’s right for you by going through the situation?
Take a couple of days to think about it. Next week you’ll use that personal knowledge to move forward with teaching the children in your life about failing, failing good, and how to learn from their failures and disappointments so that they can move forward successfully. That might sound like a contradiction but it really isn’t.
Email me your war stories, tears, upsets and all. I love hearing from you.
To read Part 1 of the series click HERE
Enjoy the day your way,
Rebecca (Kiki)
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For more information on coaching, groups, workshops, seminars or classes, lectures and materials for your group or organization please call 646.355.8759 or email me at atypicalcoaching at gmail dot com
Helping Children Fail Successfully – Part 3 of a 3-Part Series
July 18, 2012 § Leave a Comment
Helping Children Fail Successfully – Part 3 of a 3-Part Series
Quick Start Coaching Tips for changing “fear of failure” to “fear of learning nothing from failure”.
1. Begin the dialogue before the event. Discuss the different outcomes as you are working with your child toward the goal. Use the following questions as an outline for the types of conversations you might have.
Note: Use an intro to talking about it that is most comfortable for you. You can use the internet to surf ways to practice or get information on the topic together, the drive to and from practice, the dinner table, going out to a movie,lunch or shopping together for some special-together-time. Whatever works for you.
* Would you like to win/get _____?
* Why do you want to win/get _____?
* What might happen as a result of winning/achieving?
* Do you know anyone who has ever won/finished/gotten ______________?
* Do you know anyone who wanted to ____________ but didn’t?
* How can you prepare to achieve it?
2. Identify role models (yourself included!)
* Choose role models that mirror the activity or goal involved. Actors if it’s a role in the school play, athletes if it’s a sport, musicians if it’s music, astronauts if it’s space-travel related, scientists etc.
* Discuss their achievements and what makes them positive role models.
* Ask the tough questions – do you think they reached every goal they set out to?
How do you think they prepare? What happens when they lose/don’t achieve?
Note: Try and get some information for yourself so that you can mention it in the conversation. There’s tons of biographical information available online. You might also include experiences from your own life to include.
3. After the fall….. Ok. The worst happened. Disappointment, dejection, sadness…name the bad feeling that’s washing over your child and give her/him a chance to feel them. THEN – dig in and figure out;
* What happened?
* What do you think might have contributed?
* Note all the circumstances within and OUT OF the child’s control.
4. Change the language of the event. Move forward. Use these two simple words and three simple words.
* Next time….
* In the future….
What you’re doing by using those phrases is moving forward immediately, planning for the future, getting into a “try again” mentality and showing your child that the situation is not a be-all-and-end-all. It’s an experience. There will be other experiences if they keep on moving forward and trying again.
Many parents try and shield their children from disappointment, rejection, failure and anything negative but in the long run that’s not the best way to assist children in preparing for the future. It can be a tough world out there. We all want things we might not get, or might get them later than we wanted or in a different way than we anticipated. Children need to develop the mentality and the skills to deal with setbacks, disappointments and failure. That’s how they can continue onward and upward to eventually succeed.
Look at anyone you know who has accomplished something, or many things. Now, ask them how many times they’ve failed.
Enjoy the day your way and let me know how it goes!
Rebecca (Kiki)
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For information on individual or group coaching, workshops, seminars or classes and materials for your group or institution please call or email at 646.355.8759 or info at dlcecc dot com
Posted by Rebecca “Kiki” Weingarten M.Sc.Ed, MFA
Live Life, Work Well, Stress Less…..
June 27, 2012 § Leave a Comment
No One Knows – IndiGogo Crowd Funding Campaign
June 17, 2012 § Leave a Comment
I want to introduce you all to a great crowd funding project that I’m so excited and proud to be part of. No One Knows, a film that will be filming this summer. The film is a powerful story of a young boy who tries to get people to “know” what’s happening to a young girl.
During my years in education, in all my roles from classroom teacher to program developer & trainer, to Director of Youth Services in NYC govt. for a joint NY City /NY State govt. project the issue of child abuse was one that unfortunately, came up time and time again.
As a mandated reporter in the classroom, I had to report cases of suspected child abuse. Those experiences are ones I will never forget. The terror of the children, the terror of being taken away from their parents often outweighing their desire and urgency to tell a person in authority what was happening to them. The backlash from those who were held accountable for their actions. The children who were suddenly pulled out of school and moved to another neighborhood. In my role in the govt. we sought solutions on a larger scale in the form of programs and assistance City and State wide. Solutions, programs, interventions are still being sought.
Often, film is the quickest way to get a message across which is why I’m so passionate about No One Knows and the impact that I believe it can have. Starting a dialogue, having a real conversation, brainstorming for solutions and implementing educational and informative programs can all begin after seeing a film about one such story.
No One Knows is an amazing film about one little boy who tries to help one little girl. Their story is a powerful one.
Join the campaign and help this terrific film get made. Go to the crowd funding campaign for No One Knows and donate any way you can.
Join the amazing No One Knows team of Producer Daniel Hoyos, Writer Jamie Livingston, Director Bunee Tomlinson & ViviAnna and raise your voice to help give voice to this issue.
Thanks in advance,
Kiki
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RKW @writecoachkiki @coachkiki @psychcoachkiki
Live Life, Work Well, Stress Less….. coming soon
June 17, 2012 § Leave a Comment
We’re making big changes this summer. We’re splitting our services into Career + Life and Creative. Hopefully, both websites will be up and running by September as well. You don’t want all the boring, behind the scenes details. All you need to know is that our services, coaching, consulting, programs, trainings, workshops and seminars will be as terrific as before but the focus will be a bit different.
We’ll be updating here during the summer but please feel free to contact us about coaching, trainings, programs etc.
We’ll be working with you and your organization for career and life issues under our “Live Life, Work Well, Stress Less” Coaching banner.
If it’s a creative endeavor including the creative and performing arts and edutainment we’ll be working with you under our TradeCraft Coaching banner.
If it’s education, we’re coming up with a great new name for that as we speak.
Same great results.
Enjoy the day – your way,
RKW
Back On Track In All Areas
May 8, 2012 § Leave a Comment
- Salary, Raise, Promotion and Negotiation Coaching
- Banish Burnout Blast Coaching
- Work-Life Balance Win-Win for Executive Women Coaching
- What Do I Do Now? Get Back On Track Coaching
- Achieve Work-Life Balance Coaching Program + Banish Burnout Bonus Great for VeryBusy People
- Creative Project Coaching – Get Unstuck, Get Motivated, Get Focused and more….
Spring Coaching, Seminar and Motivational Speaking Options
April 18, 2012 § Leave a Comment
- Salary, Raise, Promotion and Negotiation Coaching
- Banish Burnout Blast Coaching
- Work-Life Balance Win-Win for Executive Women Coaching
- What Do I Do Now? Get Back On Track Coaching
- Achieve Work-Life Balance Coaching Program + Banish Burnout Bonus Great for VeryBusy People
Are You Ready For Coaching?
March 28, 2012 § Leave a Comment
One of the stranger things about the work I do is that people often tell me a lot about themselves when we first meet. I’m always happy to hear about people and their lives so I listen. People and their lives are fascinating to me. Each person and situation is unique and the puzzle of how to assist people in getting from here to there is one I never get tired of. I love it. So, bring it!
There is one part of the puzzle that has a quick answer-question to it. Some people aren’t sure if they’re ready for coaching.
“I’m waiting for things to settle down, I’m waiting until I feel relaxed, I’m waiting until X milestone has passed and I have more time, I’m waiting for the perfect time”. Ok – sure if that’s working for you. In the many years of working with clients I’ve found that in most of their lives just like in everyone else’s, there’s very rarely a time when everything has “settled down, completely relaxed, x milestone passed and they have more time, the perfect time”. Life is messy and full and unpredictable. The time to work on making it the best it can be is right now. Today.
The real question is “how much longer do you want to spend before you decide to make changes and make it better?”. That’s an individual answer. Some people decide that they’ve spent too much time without the satisfaction, success, motivation, energy, excitement, productivity and happiness they want. They say “I’m ready” and begin from where they are.
So, I ask you. How much longer are you going to spend before you decide to make changes and make your life better? Whichever area of your life you want to make better? Are you ready for more satisfaction, success, motivation, energy, excitement, productivity and happiness? Well then, I guess you’re ready.
Enjoy the day your way,
RKW
